What to Do when You’re at the Crossroads
Do you ever find yourself wondering what you’re going to do with your life? Should you take a job or stay at home? Should you pursue another career path or stick to it? Should you get married or not? This is often described as being at the crossroads. It’s like standing in the middle of two streets at opposing directions. Each path has its own pros and cons, some of which you’re not really willing to take so you’re stuck.
There’s nothing really wrong in being at the crossroads. In fact, you can use it as an opportunity to pause and evaluate every decision you’re going to make. After all, there’s a good chance that there will be no turning back. There’s no room for regrets. However, it becomes detrimental when you stay there for a very long time. You miss out on a lot of good opportunities. You allow time to pass you by without doing anything productive. Sometimes it can be too overwhelming, and you start to feel depressed and anxious.
What should you do then to not remain at the crossroads forever? Here are some tips:
1. List down the pros and cons. Don’t just think about them. Write them down. Make sure you list as many things as you can in every column. The purpose of writing is to ensure that you can really reflect on them.
2. Get some counsel. When you’re confused, it’s good to ask some people. You can refer your dilemma to your family or even a therapist. Though you can always share your problem with your friends, you cannot really expect them to provide you with plenty of insights as a lot of them may also be at the crossroads. What you need are mature, older people, those whom you think have gone through what you’re experiencing right now. Their wisdom and their success stories can provide you a lot of inspiration and clearness on what path to choose.
3. Visualize. Visualization is an excellent technique when you need to have a more vivid image on what you want to become. You can also do it on your own. There are two ways on how to do it.
First is the mirror technique. You stand in front of the mirror and look at yourself. Then start to imagine how you’d look like 5 years from now. Do you see yourself wearing an office uniform? Do you find yourself raising kids or traveling to other countries? Do you feel the cool breeze of the ocean or hear the honking of cars in the city?
The other technique is through meditation and relaxation. You lie down flatly on a couch or any smooth surface. Make sure you’re comfortable. Then close your eyes and perform visualization. You can use the same imagery in the mirror technique.
Once you have a clearer picture on your choices, you can then feed your mind with subliminal messages or affirmations. You can repeat the following: “This is what I want myself to be.” Repeat the sentence as often as you can, until you can feel yourself believing in the words.
You can also download subliminal messages that can be helpful during visualization. You can put them in your iPod or mp3 player or play them in the background.