Teach Your Kids How to Be More Independent
As parents we want to protect our children as often as possible. We don’t want them to be bullied, to be physically and emotionally hurt by somebody else, and we want to be part of their lives until they grow very old. However, it’s also essential for children to be taught how to be independent, especially while they’re young.
Independent children tend to make better decisions when they grow older. They are also more confident and more mature. They are more willing to take calculated risks and explore their own capacities and talents.
How do you teach your kids to be more independent? Here are some tips:
Let them engage in sports and other children’s classes. Sports and classes such as ballet teach children more than just losing or winning, as well as injuring their knees and bodies. They also teach them how to be more disciplined, to get up when they make a mistake, as well as to work well with others. Many different schools these days have classes that are suitable to your children’s ages. Look them up online or ask around within your area.
Allow them to sleep on their own. By the time they’re already two years old, it’s high time they sleep on their own beds. You want them to grow up not believing in monsters in the closets as well as to never be afraid of the dark. You can also teach them to run to you only when they cannot handle the fear anymore. Moreover, by having your children sleep in their respective rooms, you give more personal and even intimate time to your partner.
Set up some rules. If you want a blissful household, you need to establish some rules, and everyone, including the children, should learn to follow them. Besides instilling discipline, you are also helping your kids become more accountable with their own actions. You also teach them how to follow other kinds of rules, such as school laws.
Increase their level of self-confidence. Whenever you see them doing something all on their own, tell them they’re doing great. Praise them when they deserve them. If you can, enrol them in self-defense classes, so they will be more confident to stand up against bullies in school.
Give them tasks to accomplish. Teach your child the meaning of work by giving him or her some tasks. For example, your kid may have to fix his or her bedroom before he or she goes out with friends. He or she may have to complete his or her school work before he or she watches some television or uses the computer.
Teach yourself to be less controlling. The common reason for having a spoiled child is an overly controlling parent. It’s normal to worry, but that should not get out of hand. Use subliminal messages to remind you of that. The best affirmations to use include the following:
“I want to raise independent children.”
“I want to see my kids succeed using their own strategies and will.”
“I am a good parent. I am raising my children well. I don’t have to worry a lot about them.”