Learn How to Get Out of a Very Hostile Home Environment
A lot of people think that just because there’s no physical abuse in the home, they’re living in a very peaceful environment. Abuse comes in different shapes and sizes. It can be physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, sexual, or social abuse. Regardless, if any or all of these types of abuses are present in your surroundings, you’re living in a very hostile habitat.
How do you deal with it? Better yet, how do you get out of it?
1. Don’t be afraid to speak out. Virtually all victims in an abusive environment want to go out of it, but they cannot. There are a lot of reasons for it. First, they are being threatened. It’s not unusual for the parent to say, “Don’t every say this to anyone or I’ll hurt you.” Second, they feel that if they leave the home, they would never have someone to call family.
I know that it’s hard to ever talk about abuse, but you just have to. You need to keep in mind the possible consequences of not speaking out. It can be passed from you to your children and your children’s children. The abuse has the potential to escalate endangering not only your life but also the lives of your loved ones, even that of the abuser. Most of all, the more you don’t speak, the less help gets in the way. The abuse will just keep on going, hurting yourself in different ways every day.
2. Talk to a professional. You may ask, “I’m now willing to talk. To whom should I go to?” It’s normal for us to directly go to our friends and family members, but the best person to approach to is a professional, such as counselor or even a police officer. These professionals have nothing else on their minds but your security and safety. They make sure that you will be properly protected and taken away from your hostile home.
Counselors can provide you with various therapies that will help you deal with the trauma, fear, anxiety, stress, and depression the abuse may have caused you.
3. Surround yourself with good people. Perhaps you have some loved ones you trust a lot. It’s the best time to get the much-needed support and encouragement from them. You can also join a variety of support groups. Many of them facilitate to abuse victims. It’s actually ideal since you don’t feel as if you’re alone. Further, you can learn from their own struggles and victories. If they can do it, so can you.
4. Develop positive thinking. When you’re being abused all the time, it’s hard for you to think of good things. However, one of the best ways to get over the depression and post traumatic stress really fast is to develop a more positive thought.
Every day try to look at yourself in the mirror and say the following subliminal messages:
I forgive the past, I forgive the aggressor.
I will allow myself to grieve and to heal.
I am moving forward day by day from the bad memories.
At first, these affirmations may sound superficial, but the more you repeat them, the more they become truths.