Kissing: How to Not Be Afraid of It
Kissing is one of the most physical and purest forms of romance in the world—yet there are many who don’t get to enjoy it. It’s because they fear it.
If you’re afraid of kissing, then you’re missing out on something important. The following tips, nevertheless, may help you loosen up a bit:
Know the reason for the fear. There is a long list of reasons why you don’t want to kiss. Perhaps you’re scared of getting a disease. It may also remind you of a traumatic event in your life. You may have been sexually or physically abused, or your parents may have divorced after many years.
You need to get over the fear before you can go on and kiss someone. A good way to relieve yourself of the fear is affirmation or subliminal message. Some of the following are applicable:
I am not afraid to kiss.
For me to kiss, I should let go now of my past.
The past doesn’t have to affect my present or my future.
I am going to kiss someone I deeply trust.
If the fear is extremely severe, you should listen to subliminal messages regularly until you’ll notice the disappearance of the fright.
Kiss someone you truly care about. A kiss is best if it’s shared with two people in love. By then it gains meaning. That’s why you have to kiss only those whom you really care and love. Besides, if the person truly cares about you, he will also go on to great lengths to make the moment very significant, special, and intimate for you.
Do it when you are both alone. It helps a great deal if you reserve the kiss when the two of you are alone. You have no distractions, and there’s no one who will increase your nervousness or anxiety.
Share your fears. Never be afraid to let the person know that you’re afraid of kissing. The best guys are understanding and patient. They are willing to wait for the time when you’re fully ready. If not, they can be your guide all throughout the process. They’ll make you feel very comfortable about the idea and of the kiss itself.
Let your emotions guide you. You can reduce the pressure and fear of kissing if you allow your emotions to be your ultimate guide. This means that you kiss only when you have to. No one should force you to do it. Moreover, when it’s emotions that direct, the kiss is always at the perfect time.
Don’t kiss a person immediately. It’s not a good idea to kiss someone in your first meeting unless the attraction is very compelling. Instead, take some time to get to know more about the person. Build trust and respect. Do it when you’re at your most comfortable stage.
Start slow. If you’re not used to kissing or if you have never been kissed by the opposite sex, to be kissed directly on the lips can be very shocking and awkward for you. You can avoid that by telling your partner to start slow. Perhaps you can begin with kiss on the cheeks or on the forehead.