How to Deal with Unplanned Pregnancy
You are eager to pursue the things you always wanted to do while you are growing up. You want to own a home, have your own career, marry a good man, raise a family, or manage your own business. Then a bomb dropped in front of you. You are pregnant.
Unplanned pregnancies are no longer uncommon. A lot of women are currently in a dilemma, wondering how they would manage the situation they are in.
Know, though, that the world does not end and that there are plenty of things you can do to go through it. Here are some of them:
Come up with a decision. What do you want to do? Do you want to keep the baby after birth or give him or her up for adoption? Both are actually very hard to do, as each carries its own benefits and disadvantages. It would help if you can imagine how your life would be if you choose each of the options you have. Which one of them you would feel happier?
Seek professional help. You are young, and the pregnancy is unplanned. It is normal for you to be very confused on what to do. The problem is confusion can lead to very bad decisions later—things you may only regret later on. That is why it is always recommended to talk to a professional such as therapist or a counselor, especially someone who specializes in unplanned pregnancies.
Join support groups. There are hundreds of girls out there who are going through what you are experiencing today. By participating in support groups, both offline and online, you will find that you are not alone in your issues and challenges. You can also get plenty of pointers from those who have raised great families despite their young age.
Tell yourself that things are not over. Unplanned pregnancy does not have to spell the end of your dreams, though you may place some of them on hold. You may want to utilize the various subliminal messages or affirmations to remind you of that. When you are feeling really down and so alone, remind yourself that
The pregnancy is not the end of my dreams.
I can still continue dreaming even if I am pregnant.
I can still be my own person despite the pregnancy.
See it as a blessing. When it feels like you are throwing so many things out of your life, it is hard to consider pregnancy as a blessing. However, in the long run, you’ll realize that it is. Moreover, by rewiring the way your mind thinks, by being more positive, any unplanned pregnancy becomes a more beautiful journey.
Every day as soon as you wake up or whenever you want to remember, tell yourself that “This baby is a blessing to me” or “I have to cherish this precious gift in my life.”
Take things one step at a time. You’ll be less stressed, depressed, and anxious if you don’t think a lot about what the future holds. Instead, live every moment of your life.