How to Be an Effective Military Wife
It’s never easy being a military wife: deployments, constant movements, finances, children, and plenty of other responsibilities. However, that doesn’t mean you cannot manage all of them. You can be a successful, effective military wife.
Here are some tips to help you out:
Make it a decision to be independent. Whether you like it or not, you will be left alone for a huge part of your marriage. Your husband goes on duty, and your children need to be in school soon. It’s therefore important you can make your own decisions.
Keep yourself busy. Long-distance relationships are already hard enough. Things get worse when you know that there will be times when your husband is out of reach. To ensure that you don’t suffer from extreme homesickness or even depression and anxiety, keep yourself busy. There are plenty of things you can pursue, from taking care of the children to exploring a hobby.
Live by the moment. You have every right to be worried and scared all the time. You never know when you’re going to receive a call or a knock on your door. A few days without any communication can already make your mind reeling with frustration and fear. But there’s no point in thinking too much about the future. There are no guarantees there. What you have is now, the present. Just learn to enjoy every moment of it.
Consider getting a job. Money is often one of the greatest issues for a military wife. Soldiers don’t earn much, and there are children whose needs have to be taken care of. That’s why you should try to think about getting your own job.
You don’t have to spend a lot of your time outside the home. In fact, you can find home-based jobs online. This is also ideal since you can take the work with you no matter where you move.
Always be prepared. Death, illnesses, deployments, and relocations are just some of the things you can expect being a military wife. You never know when they’re going to happen, but you can, at the very least, prepare yourself.
One, ensure you’ll have enough money in the bank or at least some savings. Condition your children on the possibility of moving to another school. Keep your friends and family members within reach.
Learn to trust and love. Let’s face it, temptations are very common when the couple lives far from each other. However, you cannot allow jealousy and insecurity to rule the relationship. Else, they would spell the end of your marriage.
You have to learn how to love and trust your spouse. One good way of remembering this rule is to use a series of affirmations or subliminal messages:
I am capable of trusting and loving my husband.
We are not bound by distance.
I want my marriage to work. I have to trust my spouse.
I have a lot of trust in this relationship.
Make it a habit too to listen to these subliminal messages daily. You can use their mp3 or video versions.