Don’t Regret: How to Tame Your Tongue
Everyone needs to learn how to tame his or her tongue. Everything you say you can no longer take back. Simply put, if you hurt someone over what you said, no amount of appeasement would ever remove the fact that the pain is there. You have already inflicted it to somebody else.
Never regret what you said. Here are ways on how you can create control:
Make it a habit to not immediately speak. Before you say something, stop then think. In fact, just count one up to ten. A little pause is all you need to gather your thoughts before you say something.
Walk away. Sometimes you will find yourself in a very heated argument, a perfect time to just lash out and say whatever it is that you want to say. However, answering back may not be the best idea. Instead walk away. Besides, there is no resolution in sight when parties are very angry. You will only become very irrational. Just tell the other person that you want to stop the argument now and collect your thoughts.
Have a journal nearby. Instead of saying things immediately why don’t you write them down? A journal is the most ideal thing you can use for that. Since this is your personal space, you can do whatever you want. When you are done with ranting, though, you can then tear the page and throw it away. This is a symbol that you are already getting rid of the negative emotion.
Breathe in and out. Do you notice something when you are angry and about to explode? Your heart beats a lot faster, and the muscles in your neck and back start to stiffen. To control your anger and avoid tongue lashing, practice proper breathing. Breathe in deeply through your nostrils and exhale through your mouth.
Play out affirmations in your head. If you have the tendency to lash someone with your manner of speaking, it is best if you start using affirmations or subliminal messages now. They have great influence over your mind, which will then help change your negative behavior. Each day listen to these affirmations that may say “I should learn to control my temper” or “I can be a very patient person.”
You can also just download these subliminal messages in your mp3 player or iPod. Even if you are on the road, you can still get your dose of affirmations.
Choose the battle. Not all types of arguments are worth fighting for. You have to learn how to choose your battles. If you think they cannot really harm you and that solutions are really not possible, then there is no reason to spend too much time on them.
Learn to give praise. If you can give criticisms, then you should also know how to praise others. Expressing gratitude is also one of the best ways to fill your life with positive thoughts and emotions. When you live your life positively, you will less likely be hot tempered.