4 Ways to Grieve and Deal with the Death of Your Husband
A death of a loved one is one of the most painful episodes in your life, more so if it’s of your spouse. There’s the feeling that there is no one there to comfort you anymore. For the longest time your partner has been your shield, your source of strength, and now he’s no longer around. You also face a period of uncertainty. What’s going to happen now? Who will help me take care of the kids, especially if I’m going to look for a job?
Is there a way for you to grieve with grace and dignity? Yes, there is.
1. Mourn as long as you can. A lot of people say that you should only grieve for a month, then move on. Some say it may take a year. No one should tell you when. You also don’t need to listen to what other people say. You can mourn for as long as you can. It’s better if you can release all the pain built up inside than allow it to linger for a much longer time.
However, you have to be warned. Sometimes you mourn too much you forget about yourself. Worse, you fall into deep intense depression. Never allow that to happen to you. You can mourn while continuing with your life.
2. Surround yourself with loved ones. The death of your husband usually makes you feel as if you’re alone in this battle. That’s why you need to be surrounded by your loved ones in these trying times. They can help look out for your kids, they can assist you in running errands, and they cans imply be there to give you comfort and strength.
3. Join a support group. Participating in a support group is not mandatory, but it is definitely one of the best ideas to grieve faster. You can learn a lot from the experiences of others who also lost their husbands. You will know how they survived and how they live their lives today. They fully understand you’re suffering and pain, so they don’t offer you a gazillion pieces of advice. In fact, they can tell you what you can expect in the next few weeks or months. This way, you’ll be ready. Most of all, you can use the other members as your inspiration. If they can overcome the grief, then you definitely can do so.
4. Accept it. Stop asking questions such as “Why us?” or stop yourself from blaming. The faster it is for you to accept the death, the faster it is for you to find healing and peace. Of course, acceptance is never easy. Thus, you may want to use affirmations or subliminal messages in this process.
In your moment of silence, reflection, or stillness, listen to the subliminal messages that talk about acceptance of pain, suffering, grief, and hope. Some of these messages may include the following:
I accept that death is part of life.
I accept that life has to move on.
Even if he’s no longer around, I can still obtain strength from his memories.